This is how you unknowingly get pressurized by social media;
You open the app and first thing you see;
A boss babe doing her thing, had a major collab, bought a new house, her business is booming, knows her purpose and is actively pursuing it.
And you subconsciously wonder; where did I go wrong? I don’t even know what my purpose is or what I wanna do with my life in future.
One box unticked.
You keep scrolling and there goes the power couple. Oh boy! When was the last time you even had a crush? Let’s not even mention the mess your last relationship turned out to be or the typpa guys slidin’ into your DM.
Hmmm, another box unticked.
You scroll again, and there’s this girl giving advice on friendships and how great her squad is or even “all my gerlz are ballerz” and, even for just a few seconds, you reflect on your own life and start weighing your friendships. Maybe they’re great and if not, there goes another unticked box…
All these boxes are in some checklist subconsciously created in our minds. And if we are not at a point of contentment in our lives, social media can brew comparison, jealousy, anxiety, depression and even portraying a fake life trynna fit in with the rest who seem to have it all together.
That’s the ugly part of social media.
And then there’s the good part
- When people use it to promote (good) business,
- sharing messages of inspiration and enlightenment,
- when used for entertainment and comedy, to bring joy and break the monotony of life.
- When you can follow your role models and other people you admire and learn from them.
- To create awareness on particular issues in society
- to create connections across the globe, heck! Some people have even met their spouses on social media!
- When you can use it to promote your career.
Honestly, the benefits of social media are inexhaustible. But it all depends on how we use it, the people we follow and the content we allow in our timeline.
Your social media space is not some dumpsite that you just allow anything to be dumped. It’s a sacred space that you should treat with so much intentionality.
I personally do spend a lot of time on social media and with time, I have learnt to audit my space to make sure the content I read is helpful. If the content isn’t serving my current season or my mental / spiritual health, then I don’t need it. Because most of us don’t realize how much the things we feed our eyes affects our lives.
I bet you have across this quote: your diet isn’t just what you eat. It’s also in the things you listen to/ watch . Something like that. And I have found this to be true.
As you may I have heard it mentioned before, social media is a highlight reel of people’s best moments. I don’t there’s anything wrong with that because most of us like to capture with the good things in our lives and even share about them.. But let us not forget that we all do have the low moments but don’t like to share them. So don’t push yourself to the wall trynna be like something that’s created on little squares on social media. Take it easy on yourself and allow yourself to grow in life’s journey.
One of the most common questions people ask is,” How do I get to spend less time on social media? “
While I still struggle with that at times, there are a few practical tips that have worked for me;
- Time blocking, say, I won’t log in to social media till say 10.00am esp IG/FB, because maybe for Whatsapp ,I might want to check for class updates. It’s not even healthy to check social media updates first thing in the morning. The first hour(or more) of the morning is yours, to have some me time; it could be some queit time with God and also planing out your day.
- Remember,rarely is there an emergency waiting for you to attend to it on social media. So there’s nothing really so urgent for you to be on social media every freaking hour. Take a break and focus on your own life. Chase your own goals instead of just admiring other people on the screens achieve theirs.
- Life is here and now. Great moments will pass you by, with family and friends while you are busy keeping track of what others are doing. When was the last time you took a walk in your surrounding, enjoyed the serenity, noticed the environment and even talked to a stranger? LIVE!!
- If you feel overwhelmed by social media, take a break and enjoy some time with yourself and the people around.
- If you are struggling with comparison and jealousy, take that time off to affirm yourself that our lives are different and learn to be able to clap for others who seem to be ahead of you.
Don’t let social media rush you. As I said, most of it is a highlight reel and our paths are different. Your life doesn’t have to be perfect or look like somebody else’s. Some people are very good at hiding their ‘dirt’. So learn to handle your own and of course, focus on the light; your blessings.
For the practical tips, unfollow/unfriend people that don’t add value to your life. You don’t have to follow someone just because they’re famous yet they’re not adding value. Audit your social media and make it something you love.
You choose what you feed your eyes and that affects your mental and spiritual health. Choose wisely and remember, your life is waiting for you to live it.