Many things will try to steal your peace:
Somebody will annoy you or say something hurtful.
Jealousy about a friend who’s seemingly doing better than you or a stranger on social media.
Assumptions about somebody’s behavior.
Anxiety about what the future looks like.
A dysfunctional relationship…name it.
Many things have tried to steal my peace. And unfortunately, most times, they won. I felt (for the longest time) like I was out of control with my mind. Spiraled thoughts; the good, the bad and the ugly.
Then I read the book ‘The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari’
about my mind being a garden and that “If you
care for your mind, if you nurture it and if you cultivate it just like a
fertile, rich garden, it will blossom far beyond your expectations. But
if you let the weeds take root, lasting peace of
mind and deep inner harmony will always elude you.”
I have also come across the quote” the mind is the best servant but worst master.”
Servant: tell it what to focus on. You got the power to choose your thoughts.
Master: whatever comes to mind stays. You’ve got no power to change what your mind focuses on and it rules your day/life.
I knew I didn’t want to continue living life this way; allowing the mind to be my master. And for a while this year, I learnt to change that. I’d pause and ask myself,” what story am I telling myself concerning this issue? Is this thought worth my time? Do these thoughts support my personal growth and end goals?
You know, some time back last year, I also read The Four Agreements and it talks about the mind being a fertile ground for things you’ve allowed to grow deeply. For example, if you firmly believe that you’re worthless, when somebody says demeaning words to you, you’ll most probably believe them because your mind is fertile for it. That is, you have a strongly anchored belief of unworthiness in your mind and whatever is said to support that, you believe it.
The same goes about what you believe about how your day or life in general will turn out, which eventually affects your peace of mind.
Now back to my story; a lot of self-help books will teach us how to take care of ourselves, and in this case specifically, the mind. But as I have learnt in the last couple of years I’ve been intentional about nurturing my relationship with God, there’s only so much we can do by ourselves. It’s easy to follow these steps on taking care of our minds, and indeed they’re very effective.
However, there comes a time when things become very overwhelming and you really want things to work out. And most times, we wait until things on the outside look perfect so that we can have peace of mind. However, some things take time before they can be perfect. You don’t know if you’ll pass your exams. You don’t know when you’ll get your job. You are yet to figure out the career path you should take. Things at home(family) seem to be messy. And you wonder, when will I ever have peace of mind if all I do is allow circumstances to dictate the state of my mind?
Over the weekend, I had so much on my mind. And as the week progressed, things were less than perfect. I wanted to get back to my normal routine in pursuing my physical/ spiritual/ academic goals but some things were holding me back. As I kept thinking about how I was letting myself down, I realized how I had pushed my prayer life to the side and tried to do it all on my own. I realized I was telling myself” lemme handle this God. We’ll talk later, once I am done” yet God wants to be involved in everything we do. And so as much as I felt overwhelmed, I declared “JESUS, YOU ARE MY PEACE”
I remembered this bible verse:
Peace is what I leave with you; it is my own peace I give you. I do not give it as the world does. Do not be worried and upset; do not be afraid.
With Christ being my peace, I have faith that all things will work out for my good and I can rely on His wisdom to figure things out.
Here are a few truths I’ve chosen to hold on to, for my peace of mind:
- Jesus has my back and wants to be involved in everything I do. And the best way to communicate my needs to him is through prayer.
- I have the power to choose my thoughts. To keep what builds me and toss away anything that’s trying to steal my peace.
- Focus on the light. Look at what’s already working in your life and expect something good to happen.
- All things will work together for my good. Even as I make mistakes, I will grow from them and become a better version of myself.
- Ask for help. Maybe you’re overwhelmed because you wanna do it all by yourself.
- Talk to someone. You could do with some encouragement and for somebody to speak life into you.
Got some more tips, kindly share them in the comments and have yourself an amazing weekend!